https://youtu.be/0M7wrcasc80 Many parents with family law cases say, “I can’t afford a lawyer.” But actually, there are affordable lawyers available, you just need to know where to look. Traditional family law representation might be unaffordable to over 90% of the public, and it’s rightfully considered grossly inefficient. But many family law lawyers have recognized this …
https://youtu.be/38380PCtjxI Here are some to-dos to help you save time and money before meeting with your attorney. This will also help you organize your case if you can’t afford a lawyer and are going it alone. You don’t have to do everything suggested in this article, but do as many as you can. The more …
The opposing litigant, the lawyer, and witnesses aren’t your friend. And just because your friends and family love you and want to support you, doesn’t mean that they’re always helpful. The other side is there at court to present evidence against you and ask for something different than what you want. However polite or even friendly the other side is outside of court, remember that when your case is called, they’re going to be telling the judge why you shouldn’t get what you want. You’re in litigation.
As an arbitrator, I was always impressed with the experienced, short-spoken attorneys who made their point in a few seconds rather than the insecure young lawyers who spoke like they were paid by the word. When in Court, use the KISS method – keep it short stupid!
“Never hate your enemies. It clouds your judgment. Never let anyone know what you’re thinking.” Two wise sentences from Michael Corleone to his Nephew from the Godfather. Unfortunately, this has deep, close application to family court. I’ll explain.
The family law Court system puts father and mother against each other in a legal war, and parents often try to completely destroy the co-parent because of the pain, raw emotion, and deep wounds that were inflicted from the relationship or the separation. Ideally, they’d support each other for the benefit of their child, but the reality is that the pain and emotion of the break up can be so intense that it causes aggression, irrational behavior, and destruction to one or both parents.
Your ex knows how to upset you. He or she may start pushing your buttons in court to cloud your judgment, because then you respond with anger, and the emotions work against you. What can you do to combat this?
My wife uses the phrase, “poke the beast.” When I’m in a bad mood and holding back my rage, and then my son starts needling me, my wife says to him, “Thomas, don’t poke the beast.”
You are getting divorced from your ex, or you’re unmarried with a child, and you’re getting separated. When do you need, and when do you NOT need a lawyer? Are mediators helpful?